Put on the new self, created after the likeness of God in true righteousness and holiness. (Ephesians 4:24)
Christianity
means change is possible. Deep, fundamental change. It is possible to
become tenderhearted when once you were callous and insensitive. It is
possible to stop being dominated by bitterness and anger. It is possible
to become a loving person, no matter what your background has been.
The
Bible assumes that God is the decisive factor in making us what we
should be. With wonderful bluntness, the Bible says, “Put away . . . all
malice” and be “tenderhearted” (Ephesians 4:31–32). It does not say,
“If you can . . . ” Or, “If your parents were tenderhearted . . . ” Or,
“If you have not been terribly abused . . . ” It says, “Be . . .
tenderhearted.”
This
is wonderfully freeing. It frees us from the terrible fatalism that
says change is impossible for me. It frees me from mechanistic views
that make my background my destiny.
And God’s commands always come with freeing, life-changing truth to believe. For example,
God
adopted us as his children. We have a new Father and a new family. This
breaks the fatalistic forces of our “family-of-origin.” “Call no man
your father on earth, for you have one Father, who is in heaven”
(Matthew 23:9).
God
loves us as his children. We are “loved children” (Ephesians 5:1). The
command to imitate the love of God does not hang in the air, it comes
with power: “Be imitators of God, as loved children.” “Love!” is the
command and being loved by God is the power.
God
has forgiven us in Christ. Be tenderhearted and forgiving just as God
in Christ forgave you (Ephesians 4:32). What God did in Christ is
powerful. It makes change possible. The command to be tenderhearted has
more to do with what God did for you than what your mother or your
father did to you. This kind of command means you can change.
Christ
loved you and gave himself up for you. “Walk in love, as Christ loved
[you]” (Ephesians 5:2). The command comes with life-changing truth.
“Christ loved you.” At the moment when there is a chance to love, and
some voice says, “You are not a loving person,” you can say, “Christ’s
love for me makes me a new kind of person. His command to love is just
as surely possible for me as his promise of love is true for me.”
Don’t be a fatalist. Be a Christian. Change is possible. God is alive. Christ is risen. The promises are true.
John Piper